While some brides have had their bridesmaids planned out since they were children, it can be a lot more complicated for others. Having to choose who you want to stand by your side on your wedding day is hard enough, but when you add in the pressures of family, childhood friends, and new BFFs, it gets personal.
So, if you’re stressing out about picking your bridesmaids, you’re not alone. However, these tips below will hopefully make the process a lot easier for you. And just remember, it’s your day. You get to do what you want!
You Don’t Have to Go Big–or Small
Brides in movies and TV shows always seem to have between five to eight bridesmaids, but you don’t have to follow those rules. In fact, you can have as many as you want or as few as you want. For example, if you have one sister and only want her to be your bridesmaid, do it! Not only will it make your life so much simpler, but it also eliminates any hurt feelings or awkwardness. But, if you have always dreamed of having 12 people by your side, don’t let anyone stop you. There is no right way or wrong way to have a wedding, so trust your gut and do what you want.
Do You Expect to Be Their Bridesmaid?
Selecting bridesmaids is tough, especially if you don’t want the friends you leave out to have hurt feelings. However, when narrowing down your list of potential bridesmaids, ask yourself if you would feel hurt if they didn’t ask you to be a bridesmaid in their wedding. If the answer is no, you almost certainly shouldn’t feel obligated to include them. But, if the answer is yes, maybe think twice about it.
Don’t Let Outside Voices Influence You
Your mother may want you to ask your childhood friend to be one of your bridesmaids and your fiancé may be nudging you to ask their sister to be included, which is why it’s important to shut out the noise. Everyone is going to have an opinion, but yours is the only one that matters in this situation. Don’t just pick someone to be a bridesmaid because you feel you have to. That’ll only cause stress, which you don’t want on your wedding day.
People Will Get Over It
The most important thing to remember is the friends or family members you don’t ask to be bridesmaids will almost certainly get over it. And if they don’t? Good riddance! There are going to be people in your life who may have their feelings hurt, but over time they will understand, especially if or when they get married themselves. Again, you have to do what you feel is right for you and your wedding. As long as you do that, everything else will take care of itself.