Wedding season is upon us, folks. Whether you’ve been to a million and one weddings or you’ve only experienced a handful, it’s important to remember proper wedding guest etiquette.
It doesn’t matter if you’re attending your best friend’s wedding or are on a date to a wedding where you know nobody, there is a right way and a wrong way to conduct yourself. And trust me, you certainly don’t want to be that person at a wedding who is doing everything wrong.
DON’T Show Up Late
If the wedding invitation says the ceremony will start at 5:00 p.m., make sure to arrive at the venue before 5:00 p.m. There’s nothing worse than someone arriving right as the bride is getting ready to walk down the aisle.
On the flip side, it’s not a great idea to show up too early, either. There will probably be a ton of last-minute preparations happening, and an early guest could be just another problem for the stressed-out couple to deal with.
DO Follow the Dress Code
Wedding invitations will often say what the expected dress code is, so do your best to follow it. Don’t be that person who shows up to a black-tie wedding in shorts and flip-flops. Sure, it may not be your style, but if you’re attending a wedding you should respect the couple’s wishes.
Oh, and just a friendly reminder — don’t wear white to a wedding! If you even have to question whether your outfit counts as white, you probably shouldn’t wear it.
DON’T Assume You Have a Plus One
Never ever assume you have a plus one to a wedding, even if you know the couple very well. Unless it says “guest” on your invitation, you should be the only person attending.
On that same note, don’t be offended if you don’t get a plus one! Weddings are expensive and oftentimes the couple doesn’t have enough in their budget to allow every person to bring someone. And, whatever you do, do not call or text the couple and ask if you can bring someone. Either attend solo or respectfully RSVP “no.”
DO Send a Gift Early
Most couples have online registries, so try to purchase a gift ahead of time. In most cases, the gift will be sent directly to their home, so you won’t have to worry about getting it to them personally. This is a lot easier, and also a lot less awkward, than bridging a gift to the wedding itself.